Planning the Mass

The funeral Mass reminds us that your loved one was baptized in Christ, nourished at the altar with the Bread of Life, and now shares in the hope of the Resurrection. The solemn readings from the funeral rites allow those gathered to turn to God’s word as a source of faith, hope, and light in the face of darkness. The funeral Mass reflects our faith-filled conviction that death no longer has the final word, but through Jesus Christ we can share in His eternal life.

The priest or deacon who will minister at the funeral will be happy to assist you in planning for the various parts of the funeral rites.

You will have the opportunity to select from a variety of liturgical readings and psalms as well as to choose music that will console as well as uplift the mourners in attendance. Family members or friends are encouraged to take part in the Liturgy of the Word by proclaiming the First and Second Readings and the Prayer of the Faithful, as well as non-speaking roles such as placing the funeral pall on the casket and bringing the gifts of bread and wine to the altar.  You may bring the completed Funeral Planning Form to the meeting with the priest or deacon, or he will be happy to fill it out together with you.

The priest or deacon will want to learn important and memorable details about your loved one to help him prepare a homily that is more personalized and relevant. Family and friends are encouraged to pay tribute to the deceased during a designated time at the funeral home or at a gathering following the funeral; if desired, however, it is acceptable to have one, short (3 - 5 minute) eulogy delivered at either the beginning or the end of the funeral Mass. It is strongly encouraged that this tribute be written out to help the speaker present a cohesive, meaningful reflections during such an emotional time. Sharing these words at the beginning (rather than the end) of the Mass can also be helpful for both the speaker and those gathered for the Mass.